Feeling Frazzled

If you are getting close to your wedding date, by now you know that planning a wedding can be a panic-stricken juggling act. Don’t want to drop the ball on anything? Delegate some of that stress! This is one of the most challenging tasks when planning a wedding. A wonderfully exciting time, your engagement can quickly seem overwhelming. You should not attempt to shoulder the burden alone (and you shouldn’t have to).

Learn the art of delegation
Whether it’s friends, family, or a hired professional, let someone else take the reigns for your big celebration. With less to do, you can focus on the time needed with your fiancé (and yourself). The big questions seem to be “Who does what? How do you make those decisions? Are you too overwhelmed to even delegate?” As silly as it may sound, making of list of people and their specialties is a start. A second list should contain the tasks that need to be completed before your big day. A third (and final) list is a match between the people and the tasks. Sound easy enough?

If you are still struggling with this concept, ask your married friends. Many women choose to not speak to a bride about her upcoming nuptials because they do not want to step on any toes, or they are concerned with her feeling as if they are pushing their ideas onto her. This is not the case! Many brides would welcome this kind of advice. That is the best part of advice-you can take it or leave it! Still not sure what can be delegated? Here are some simple tasks you can let go of (or at least try to!).

Trust the groom, and pick a task he can handle
Let him handle the tuxedos. This may be hard, but let him handle the arrangements. If you have selected the color, you can let him instruct his friends/family on where to go for the tuxedo. If you are still not confident with this action, ask a friend/family member in the bridal party to be in charge of this task.

Invitations
Is the thought of the invitations bringing you down? Are you still looking for addresses for some of your guests? Create a typed out speech and have family members place calls to get addresses. Many times, you are stuck on the phone with your future guests when you call to obtain this information. People are more likely to talk less to a family member, thus making the process of obtaining addresses go by quicker!

The RSVP list
Your mom or the groom’s mother could oversee this task, leaving you more time to focus on other responsibilities. Additionally it is a great way for the “moms” to get to know one another. With time and patience, you can delegate more tasks until you are “de-stressed” and worry-free until your big day!